REBOUND

A rebound hmmm, most teenagers are guilty of this..you leave one relationship..broken,tired,frustrated you feel so starved of love . You are so vulnerable..  looking for the next person who is ready to give the the love and attention you lost and feel you need badly... You find such a person and will start to think you re in love..no you re not cause at that moment you are so vunerable,any kind of attention will do.
     Well pardon me let me define what a rebound is so we can get what I am really talking about.The meaning of a rebound according to urban dictionary a rebound is a second best, just some person you use to get over the person you just broke up with. they'll never be enough but they can be an okay distraction.Anybody can fall into this category both men and women,young and old,but mostly women are guilty of this.I am not saying guys aren't guilty too but mostly girls cause they mostly have admirers and male lovers waiting on them... .so when a breakup occurs that pains and leaves them vunerable they want so much attention and love to replace that void in them.
    The keen thing About rebounding is that it's about using another person..note the term "using"..you exploit the person's emotions for your sake which is wrong and painful to the person being used and even wrong for your emotional state..most of the time, we don't even know we are using somebody as a rebound, you just realise that during that time you were broken you really needed the person ,but now you are healed you dont want to see them around. The thing is we don't even have to be in a relationship to use someone as a rebound, when you exploit someone's love and affection just to fill a void in you not because you actually want to share it..you are doing the same thing.
    What then can we do about this rebound issue...fine we need people to be there for us when we are broken,hurt and bitter but then we must draw a line between frndship and exploitation...because the truth is to a very large extent your healing depends on you.so therefore 1) avoid unnecessary dependency on others especially those who's got something for you even friends 2) Don't make decisions in that broken and vunerable state you are..most decisions made during this period are without clarity of mind  and lastly 3)Focus on healing, heal first and deal with your issues before engaging in any form of relationship.
   Conclusively,I want to say to all those who are in pains,bitter, broken and hurt that you can heal,you don't need a rebound to do that,tho it takes strength,courage and time you can do it.we will be stopping here for now..if you have questions and comments they are all welcomed.Thank you all for reading and watch out for rebound part 2.